The difference between trauma and grief

What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us. / Helen Keller/ In my blog I talk a lot about grief, ways to grieve, mourning, etc. Yet the website itself includes the word ‘trauma’. Without going too much into theory of psychology I will […]

New healing layers

It was my birthday yesterday. Ironically, out of all days and weeks even for the whole year my body had decided to slow down and catch cold exactly the day before. It’s not that I planned big parties or celebrations (I’m a bit of a hermit type), but the sore throat didn’t feel good even […]

Surviving festive season

If you have lost someone you love, most likely you have heard from well meaning relative or friend: ‘He/she wouldn’t want you to be unhappy and grieve for the rest of your life’. Or some variation of that. In the midst of raw pain and sorrow you probably just got angry (even if you didn’t […]

Letting go

 We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.  /Joseph Campbell/  This is time to celebrate and contemplate the balance of darkness and light, balance between the day and the night. Depending where you are in the world, it is […]

Remembrance dates

In Latvia, where I come from, we celebrate name days. That’s another opportunity to receive presents, invite  friends and have a party. Listening to the Latvian radio station today, where they pronounce the names that are celebrated, I realized it’s my deceased son’s name day. I had forgotten… It was 8 years ago the last […]